The State of Pride
A little birdie told me about the ever dichotomous character or emotional state of pride. Dividing pride into its potentially contradictory baseness, unintended consequences may result. On one hand, pride generates a feeling of positivity, such as when new and seasoned parents share pictures of their children’s cherub faces or detailing extraordinary accomplishments. Or, when you set and obtain your goals, it is a noteworthy achievement and a time to be proud. And, pride in your culture is paramount when your community has been marginalized. It can be celebrated through a James Brown song “Say it loud! I’m black and I’m proud! Say it louder! I’m black and I’m proud!”. This anthem instilled a sense of pride and power within the African American community in the mid-60s after Martin Luther King, Jr was assassinated. Every March 17th the Irish celebrate a much-needed exodus from English rule and potato famine, a sea of kelly green personifies pride.
When does pride become a haughty spirit before the fall? Ask Elizabeth Bennet and Mr. Darcy how pride nearly kept them from sealing their relationship; Jane Austin knew pride could keep a couple from living their best life as a loving unit. Dante created the first circle of hell of proud souls that languish under a crushing weight of boulders.
Don’t let pride keep you from seeking mental health services. Our experienced individual therapists can help you discover what ails your soul. Our experienced couples and family therapists can help your relationships find humility and joy. And that my friends, is what a birdie told me.